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So I went there and checked it out. Here's what I found:
Elder Response: Please remember as you read this that we are not professional advisors but rather provide advice, thoughts, suggestions and observations based on life experience. I am a man, enjoy my occasional beer and like to play poker, again on occasion so thought you might like a man's perspective.
His friends call him a 'wuss' because you ask him to come home. Well, I have to agree that he is a 'wuss' but not because of that but rather that he is acting like a little boy and isn't living up to his responsibilities as a husband or a father.....and that is a better definition of a 'wuss'.
I can appreciate that you are hurt, confused and tired.....you didn't indicate whether you work outside the home but the cooking, cleaning and caring for a baby daughter is a full time job in itself and you are getting absolutely no assistance. He seems to be running away from something. Going out with the boys is ok on occasion but at the most should not be more than one night a week. Most men, especially with a new baby and a beautiful wife enjoy spending time with them. You also need some 'me' time to get out of the house, be with friends and do something that you enjoy.
Something is going on with your husband but I'm not qualified to make that determination. I think that the two of you need to consider joint marital counseling and find out the underlying causes for his actions and get your marriage back on track. If he refuses, and he might, go yourself so you at least can understand and then deal with the problem. But he owes it to you, and your daughter, to work on this with you.... he needs to work at being a husband and a father......if he doesn't he is truly a 'wuss' and feel free to tell him I said so. I wish you the best and give your baby a hug for me. I'll be thinking of you and let me know how things are going.
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posted at 9:25 PM